In this section, we learn about the importance of getting your life in motion. It is important to live your best life and not let it go by. We should be thankful for what we have and not focus on what we don’t have.
We should not get stuck in our own misery and instead get up and do something about it. If you want something bad enough, you will find a way to make it happen. If you are feeling down, there are many things that can help you feel better such as exercise or meditation or talking with a friend or family member.
Perhaps you’re excited and energized by the passions you’ve uncovered so far, but you still aren’t sure what to do next, or which direction to take. Perhaps you’re scared, or you feel held back by a list of limiting factors.
Well, not to worry, because those feelings of uncertainty are completely understandable. Fortunately, today, we’re going to talk about changing obstacles into opportunities. We’re going to give you some tools and thought exercises that are going to help you choose a direction and overcome adversity, especially if you feel stuck.
For the last few years, I’ve had a lot of coffee chats with folks looking for some direction, where their friends, distant acquaintances or coaching clients. These conversations usually revolve around someone’s difficulty deciding on the next step.
From what I’ve observed, there’s one destabilizing event, be it losing a job, the end of a relationship, or a health issue, which suddenly calls everything else in the question. In a sense, a little bit of uncertainty and questioning can start to cast out on everything in our lives. Do we even like the city that we’re living in? Are we in the right career is our life partner the one?
In transition and uncertain situations like this, as you can imagine, people tend to get very lost. For this reason, we’d like to share with you the bit of advice that we’ve shared with countless of other people, based not only on our own life experiences but also on watching other people put this advice into practice.
But first, we have to remind you of Sir Isaac Newton. That’s right, the guy from physics class.
For those of you who don’t remember or weren’t paying attention, Newton developed the three laws of motion, which still to this day are the guiding principles of the field of physics.
The first law is that a body in motion will stay in motion, and a body at rest will stay at rest. Unless an external force changes something. Over the years, we’ve come to realise that this is a perfect metaphor for going through life. Here’s how; most people, when stuck in the day-to-day routine of their lives, want to stay that way, until an external force puts them into motion.
Newton’s second law states that force is equal to mass times acceleration. To tie it back to our metaphor. This means that the more mass, or the more rooted one’s life is, the larger the external force it will take to accelerate it into motion. Once an external event of that power places people into motion, most people suddenly have inertia.
And that inertia wants to carry them and keep them in motion, especially if their life had a lot of mass before. And that causes an even faster acceleration into seeming chaos.
This, in my mind, is why so many people feel their lives are spinning out of control and falling apart when a major event knocks them out of that resting state. But the idea goes further.
Because for someone stuck in that state who actually wants to get out, the same laws are true, unless and until they’re nudged into motion, be it by a tragic event, an exciting opportunity, or maybe a video course, it can be very hard to start creating motion.
This is why so many people make change in their already established lives only after a major event, like finally quitting smoking after their first child is born. Or maybe when they have a major health scare.
Oftentimes, anything less just doesn’t have the force to knock their heavy lives out of the stationary retreat and out of comfort. Even if you do manage to get into motion, which direction should you go in?
Well, according to Newton’s law, it shouldn’t matter. As we learn in the first law, the first step is to create motion. Once we’re in motion, the hardest part is over. In fact, in reality, I’ve come to learn that there actually is no wrong direction in life.
Imagine you take a direction that just isn’t right for you. So you’re headed down a path that doesn’t lead you to your life’s mission. Guess what? You’ll very quickly learn that it’s not the right direction, effectively eliminating one possible direction and freeing you up to choose another. If we frame life experiences in this way, then there really is no wasted time. For this reason, I like to say that any motion in any direction creates motion in every direction.
Inevitably, it seems to be that the chaos created by a challenging event, such as a health scare, the loss of a loved one, or a failed career trajectory, creates motion and chaos. And only once that motion and chaos are embraced. Is the individual truly free to set out and find their place?
When you aren’t sure of which direction is right for you. Just remember, the direction itself isn’t as important as embarking on the journey. A body in motion wants to stay in motion. And eventually, if you create enough motion, try enough things and explore your own curiosities. You will find the proper resting place and your purpose along with it.